"But seeking out other genders to play with doesn't necessarily have to change your identity." "I was really worried that if I played with men that meant my identity had to change too," says Heavy, looking back at that time in his life. And just like you, BOUND, Heavy once felt conflicted about getting tied by other men because he didn't identify as gay or bisexual at the time. That was the reason he chose "Heavy Bondage For Life" as his porn name. Just like you, BOUND, Heavy was always turned on by extremely heavy bondage scenarios. "I felt very much in this person's shoes at one point in my life," says bondage porn star James "Heavy" Woelfel. Am I silly for considering doing stuff with men even though I'm a lot more attracted to women, just in order to fulfill these kinks? I've just recently been feeling less shame about being kinky and now there's this whole other level of shame that I am scared to contend with. I was bullied and called a faggot constantly. I grew up in a very rural area that was extremely homophobic. And I don't want the poor guy that I play with to have to deal with my own internal psychological drama. I don't know if I'll feel repulsed to have, say, a dick in my mouth. I think the former is going to win, but certain things concern me. It's like a battle between my identity as a kinkster/fetishist and my identity as straight.
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He showed me Recon, which has opened a whole new world up to me. I've been talking to a guy who shares a very similar set of kinks, and it's been great. I think men have a higher propensity to pursue these kinds of things. Since then, I've seen some other women but looking around I came to the realization that gay men have all the fun! I often see these incredibly intense sexual experiences that I so desire in amateur gay porn or on various gay men's fetish profiles. My wife is incredible, and we do many wonderful kinky things together, but I needed more. In the last year we opened up our marriage because my sexual desires were putting too much of a strain on the marriage. I'm a 32-year-old straight male who has been married for five years. Think full-body casts or getting locked up for an entire weekend. To give an example, I love long-term and extremely restrictive bondage.
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I'm extremely kinky, with an emphasis on extreme.